Do blogging critics take the wind out of your sails…..and sales?
I flamed out when critics lobbed bombs my way 10 years ago. I was a new blogger, having no clarity, focus or confidence.
But these days criticism rolls off me like water off of a duck’s butt. Why? I learned how to frame blogging criticism to benefit me and my readers.
Most bloggers struggle because critics scare them, goading them to hide away and play small. I even feared seizing guest posting opportunities because new, critical readers would discover my blog and brand. But here I am, guest posting like mad, seizing opportunities to serve people on my freeing blogging journey.
Frame blogging criticism in these 4 ways to gracefully handle negative feedback.
1: Positive Feedback from a Loving Friend
Some critics are dear friends who offer loving feedback.
Hug the criticism; these friends mean well. Does the feedback fit your brand? Listen closely if yes and let go if no.
My closest buddies offer criticism here and there to share their honest take. I frame their love as support, trying to nudge me in the right direction, from their view at least.
2: Negative Feedback from a Loving Friend
Loving friends are human. Humans have bad moments, bad days or bad weeks.
Some loving friends may tell you to cease talking to other friends, to stop promoting some product or service or to do something negative, from a heavy energy of fear. Fear clouds your judgement so if you honor a fear-filled friend’s feedback you honor clouded, inaccurate judgment.
Don’t you know when a good friend is having a bad day? We all do. Never trust their feedback unless it is positive, uplifting and supportive. Good friends are human beings with changing emotions who may mislead you from time to time, from a not on purpose, but damaging, energy.
3: Positive Feedback from a Stranger
Do you feel defensive if a stranger offers you positive feedback?
Relax. This person you just met has your good at heart.
Please slow down, calm down and do not reject criticism from unknown folks who intend to help you. Positive feedback comes in many forms. Trusted friends offer criticism. Unknown strangers offer criticism. Listen closely to see what you hear and how it helps your blog.
Most bloggers act defensively if a stranger leaves a positive, honest, heartfelt review on an eBook or via a blog comment because you do not know and trust the person. Pump on the breaks. Relax. Listen closely; this person may not know you but cares about you enough to offer positive feedback. Pay attention. Promote your success.
4: Negative Feedback from a Stranger
We know ’em, right?
Online trolls = strangers hiding behind fake names, fake avatars and internet anonymity to lob negative feedback your way.
Ignore these fools 100% of the time. Unhappy, suffering people generally try to project their unhappiness onto you through their nasty, negative feedback. Some humans have nothing good to do with their lives so they try to do something bad in your life. Ignore these trolls.
Block people on social media. Label comments as spam on your blog. Never give trolls public – or private – attention and energy because this is exactly what they want.
Instead, ignore these folks completely. Being starved of attention you better believe this crowd will vanish into the ethers, looking for someone else to bother and pester.
Be patient with yourself. If you never fielded criticism about your blog you will feel uncomfortable processing these emotions for the first time.
Take a deep breath. Feel the emotions. Be genuine. Be honest about how you feel. Do you want to react to the critic? How about wanting to fight them? Do not engage. Be with your emotions. Allow the feelings to pass.
Glide gracefully through criticism toward increased blogging success.